Posts Tagged ‘friends’

I am really not sure what God is trying to say to me, but He has my attention.  I really thought I was getting it, but maybe not.  Yesterday I had my second iron transfusion.  I expected today to be my good day before the side effects started to happen.  When I woke up my leg was hurting and when I put my pants it hurt for the material to touch my leg.  When I looked at my leg it was swollen and  gross looking.   Keith looked at it with concern and we decided I might need to go see a doctor because it hurt just to stand much less train people on concrete floors.

I was at the doctor by 8:00 a.m.  My doctor just happen to walk by and agreed to work me in.  He looked at my leg and was afraid it was a blood clot.  He had it ultra sounded and was blessed it is just a varicose blood clot (phel-something) not the dangerous kind that puts you in the hospital and can kill you.  He said I need to elevate my leg above my heart and put heat on it.  HE SAID I COULD NOT WORK FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK!!  I was so angry I started to cry. 

I am home, my leg is up, my toes are so long I cannot see the TV over them!  I am trying to hear what God is saying.  My friend, Darlene, (she is the one I call and cuss at when I am upset, okay she is one of the ones) said, “Your entire life has changed in the last five years, you started running and have not stopped.  Maybe God is trying to slow you down.”  Well, she may have a point.  I am tired and I may have been trying out for Super Woman wanna be.  I have always wanted to lay around and now that I can, I don’t wanna.  (Do you hear the whine?) 

Tomorrow I am having an endoscopy to see if I have an ulcer.  I really don’t think I have one but the doctor thinks it is necessary. 🙂

 Did I mention I have to wear support hose?  I think that is what threw me over the edge!  I am 46 years old.  Truly, I am asking God to show me whatEVER He wants me to see and I will try my best to be obedient.


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I love BRAVO TV.  We watch Top Chef (my favorite), Top Design, Top Model, Jeff the OCD House Flipper, The young real estate guys(they are weirdos), and The Wedding Shows (I hate Bridezilla).  If there is a reality show on Bravo I have been watching it.  The only one I did not really follow was The Real Wives of the OC or New York BUT when The Real Wives of Atlanta came on I started to watch it.

WHAT A CAT FIGHT!  It makes you embarrassed to be from The ATL.   They are tacky, petty, lie big time about their age and just are all around ridiculous.  Two of the five are sweet and have class, the rest are an embarrassment to the South.  The season finale is next week and I am hoping it is their last season. 

All that to say, last week two of them went to Atlantic Station to Rosa Mexicano.   They made fresh guacamole at the table, one of them had never had guacamole, made fun of how they were making it and made all kind of faces when she tried it.  Well my girls and I LOVE guacamole so I have been hoping we could go soon.

 Kayla has her 19th birthday Sunday.  She is down at school and cannot come home for the weekend but is going to bring a friend and meet Keith, Candy, my niece Michal and myself at Atlantic station to shop and go eat guacamole and Mexican treats at Rosa Mexicano.  It should be so fun!!!!!  Candy is so excited we are eating where The Real Wives ate, she thinks there may still be cameras there.  Candy is sure we could be the next Bravo stars!  lol

Any shows you are embarrassed you follow?

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Boy what a great weekend.  I am tired but that is not a complaint, just a fact of a very fun filled busy weekend!!  Kayla came home and we went shopping with Candace on Saturday.  I was not excited about shopping for me but I really needed some clothes.  Kayla was great in helping me find things that she approved of and that did not make me look really really old!  🙂 

We then went to our Blog Party and had a great time with my BFF Rob.   I loved meeting everyone and having time with Kayla and Robin. I love that Kayla is an adult and we can share adult things together!

Today we went to Kayla’s church.   It was a great sermon on encouraging others and how our words can change someones life for the good or bad.  He majored on the good and how affirming others is food to their soul. 

After church we got a burger and then helped Kayla pack up and leave to go back to school.  I should be used to it, but no, I always feel like part of me just left.  We love having her but love that she is ready to go back. 

Candace got upset earlier in the week because Kayla said to her she was on her way home, she meant her dorm room.  Candace said can you believe she said that is her home.  Candace said it just made me want to cry.   It was really sweet and I think very sensitive of her.  I am proud and truthfully a little sad that Kayla is gaining her independence and feeling like an individual.  She is an amazing young woman.  She is sensitive to us, respectful of our opinion but forging on to become this exciting person that is slowly evolving as she tries different things and risk change. 

I then went and worked out with my boss.  I almost threw up.  We did a workout called the Dirty Thirty.  We did thirty of each of these exercises:  jumping pull-ups, kettlebell swings, knee-ups, lunges, 60 jump ropes, 30 burpees (I could only do the push-up part, I was seeing stars as it was) and  back extensions.  It was grueling and it shows how out of shape I am. BUT I DID IT, that is what counts!  Tomorrow I am doing cardio and shoulders.

I then went and bought groceries, made an easy dinner, bathed and am now watching Iron Chef America and blogging.  I am ready for a great night sleep!

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Blog Party

Tonight Robin, Kayla and I went to a blog party over in Roswell. Kayla came home from college just so we could go. I met people from Florida, California, South Carolina, Indiana and all over Georgia. We had a great time. It was so fun meeting people you have been reading about. We sat across from a dating couple from Indiana. They were so sweet and it meant a lot they would drive 10 hours to come. We sat next to people from South Carolina who seemed to have a sweet family.

The funniest moment for me was when a lady walked up to me before we ate and offered me some anti-bacterial lotion. She smiled and said, “Would you like to clean your hands before you eat? Make sure you don’t put it any where else on your body.” My first thought was, I have now met a bigger germaphobe than Darlene and Robin and then when she said don’t put it anywhere else on your body I had a jolt and and remembered my blog about going to the massage and gyn doctor an putting the anti-bacterial wipe other places and it burning really bad! We had a great laugh and it strangely meant a lot that someone would remember something i wrote and it gave them a good laugh.  I love people with a good sense of humor!!!

Heather and Stephanie did a great job of putting it all together. They raffled off so many great gifts! We all really had a great time. I got to free entries to the Gobble Jog on Thanksgiving day.  The cool thing was Kayla and I had talked about doing it, now I am actually going to need to start running!  I am glad we took the time to go and meet strangers who were not strangers at all!

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I just have to laugh

Today I called my best friend, Rob, and chatted for just a minute.  When I got off the phone I had this paralyzing feeling, I have upset her some how.  Now first let me say that I have not spoken to Rob since Wednesday when we had a delightful coffee break before work.  I left her feeling encouraged and ready to face a new day.  I always leave feeling blessed to have a friend who understands me.   I knew there was nothing I could have done then, her birthday is in July, anniversary in January but still I thought I have done something.

The old Ruth would have not called and asked, worried all day and come up with 100 different things I could have done or not done but I have changed.  I feel totally secure with Robin, I know she is a friend for life, in it for the long haul, she has dug a trench beside me and is with me during the good, bad and ugly!  People, she knows it all and keeps loving me!  All this to say, I text her and asked if she was upset with me.  She immediately replied, NO, she was concerned about another thing in her life (imagine it is not all about me, lol)  and there was nothing I could have done to upset her.  You know my heart let out a sigh, but the best part was that I knew if I had done something she would tell me, we would work it out and be all good.  We have both grown as individuals and it has made our friendship stronger.

I realize how my insecurities have kept me stuck for so long.  I worry about things that have not happened.  I make things up that may have happened or could happen.   (HOW DUMB AM I?!?)  The Bible says to take your thoughts captive, when  you think about things know that they are true, honorable and of good repute.  As I take my thoughts captive, act in a mature manner, and I  am willing to be vulnerable, risk and be honest God rewards me each time.  I feel so safe with Rob, I know she loves Jesus first and is looking out for my good.  She tells me the truth and pushes me to Jesus.  When I saw her text I just started laughing.  I could have ruined my ENTIRE DAY over nothing!!!!! Thank you Jesus for Your unending mercies!

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My friend Mel

I have a few close friends who I share my life. I have learned over the years to only share with those that are safe. I want to tell you about one of those friends.

Growing up a preacher’s kid there was a lot of pressure. I am not sure that I saw it as such at the time but I was a very responsible kid who felt I must be perfect. I went to church with Mel but I don’t think I really knew her until we went to Jackson Middle School. Mel and I became instant best friends. She had no expectations of me, she was so fun and took me just for who I was. When I think of her I just smile. We were living high on life in seventh and eight grade. At that age I had little fights with my friends and I was easily hurt. The joy of my friendship with Mel was that we NEVER EVER fought. We were inseparable in seventh and eighth grade. She was very pretty and popular. I had no confidence, dressed poorly and really was always on the fringe, she never cared. She treated me with such respect and love. She never cared that I was not popular, that my dad was a preacher or what others thought. I always felt truly loved and accepted by her. I know she would have stepped in front of a car for me if need be. Those two years were probably the funniest years of my youth.

We were friends in high school but really ran with different crowds. She moved and then came back. Even though we hung out with different people we always knew each other would be there at the drop of a hat. We were in each other’s weddings. Over the years we have seen each other through many different difficult times. Because we do not live near each other we will lose touch but the moment we talk it is like never being away.

I have always held things in, I had never shared my deepest hurts with anyone until one time when I was home for a vacation. I was in my early thirties. Someone in my family hurt me deeply. I went running to Mel. My pain was so deep and at first I could not tell her what was wrong. I gave her some surface details but could not tell my deepest hurts. I will tell you I got drunk at her house that night and probably for the first time opened up and shared my hurts. I sobbed in her arms and said everything that was hurting. That night she just let me cry and talk. She never tried to give me a solution, she just loved me. I went home the next morning shaken by my feelings but loved by Mel. She gave me the courage to keep moving.

Recently we talked. It had been several years since we had talked. As we started talking I asked Mel how she was and was digging around in her stuff. I did not realize, but every time she asked me about mine I deflected and said all was okay. Laughing, she said, oh no, you tell me how you really are and stop turning it back to me. I realized she was right, I was not really sharing what my life was like and where I had been or what was happening today. Because I felt completely loved and accepted by her I felt safe to share it all. (This time I did not need to be drunk to share the truth with her.) I think she got more than she expected, I left no stone unturned. I felt no judgment, she did not give me advice, she did not quote scripture at me, she just said, Oh Ruth! I am so sorry. I love you and thank you for sharing. It meant a lot to her that I was finally real. It meant a lot to me that I could be real with her. She is a true picture of God loving me unconditionally and comforting me.

It is funny and sad we have not talked since but that afternoon I would not trade for anything. My thirty four year old friendship is stronger than ever. She has loved me fiercely since we were twelve. I hope Mel knows that I love her just as fierce. I know if I called Mel today and told her I needed her she would drop everything and come running. I know one day I will make that call and I know she will come.

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It has been a hard week on every level, God, homework, work, finances, marriage, friends with losses, exercise, eating. You name it and I have struggled with it. I feel panic rise up and it is hard to breathe some moments. The good thing is I know God is real in each of those situations and willing to meet me, I just cannot seem to reach Him. I am old enough to know this too shall pass. I just hate it at the moment. My energy level is low, my heart is sad and it is hard to keep moving. I am thankful I have Candace at home that demands that I keep moving, to me that is a gift from God. I can be down for myself, but I don’t want to let my kids down. For me that is a safety net that keeps me from spiraling to low.

I am not sure what to do but keep putting one foot in front of the other. Please pray for my heart today and I will pray for yours.

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