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Keith my love

Keith my love

I just read Ree’s blog the pioneer woman about her man. It made me think of my man, Keith.

September 2007 until August 2008 we had a tough year. Our marriage was stretched, our own personal growth was pushed to new limits. We have been married 27 years and this definitely was a year of great struggle but great REWARD. We were determined not to give up on working through the problem, it hurt like hell. We learned that loving someone like they were did not mean leaving them there. We fought hard to come out better individuals who made better partners. At times my heart hurt, ached, and screamed in pain. I cried out to God and many times did not feel His presence, but I knew His silence did not mean He was not there.

This was an old problem that just never seemed to go away. Determined this time to get to the root our struggle effected every area of our life. We were distressed, depressed, angry, short tempered, defensive and humbled by all these ugly emotions that were coming out. We both felt rejected and dejected. The cool part is that we NEVER EVER GAVE UP on each other. We were going to duke it out to the death or the victory and we knew there was VICTORY if we kept on working.

In August both our hearts began to soften, we both were willing to accept responsibility for our part, we were willing to keep trying and keep loving. It was exciting to start to see sun light, to start to feel hope and hear loving words.

September we went away and that was the beginning of me feeling joy again. I started to feel light hearted, believing the future looked brighter.

Keith is AMAZING. He is determined to be all that God wants him to be. It is very hard for him when I am not happy, he feels it is a reflection on him as a husband. This area has been a tough one for him, he has had to dig deep and stretch himself to a new level of personal growth. He has been humble and hard working. He just keeps coming back and working harder.

October and November has been my dream month. Keith found what made my heart sing. He has won a personal victory and it has created peace and harmony in our home again. The road will have bumps along the way but we are a team and are sticking together.

When he found out about the anemia last week he has been PERFECT. He has gone to 3 of the 5 doctors with me, he was with me in the hospital, he has bought dinner (he doesn’t cook, :O) he has cleaned and helped me in every way. I feel so LOVED and CHERISHED by him.

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Keith

Keith

This morning my husband called me on his way to work and said, “Don’t forget we need to go over our finances tonight.” At this moment the the heavens opened up, the angels wings started to flap and all of the heavens started to sing the hallelujah chorus! My heart was singing with them.

Let me back up and say that for the last year has been a very difficult year for my husband and I. We have been married 27 years and this last year has probably been one of the most difficult. We have always struggled with our finances but really never dealt with why we had the struggles. This past year we started delving in to all the areas of our finances and the areas we both needed to work on. It has not been pretty. On the surface we were much happier when we lived in denial and did not face some hard truths. Our flesh has been screaming and we have not wanted to make the changes that needed to be made. We can thank Dave Ramsey and Financial Peace University for the openning our eyes. At times I admit I have called him Dave Damn Ramsey when I wanted someone else to blame for our pain. ūüôā

Our committment to each other had not changed, well maybe it had, we were now committed to loving each other enough to tell the truth, even when it hurt like hell. We used to say that we loved each other the way we were and accepted each other but we now realized that to love someone like they are does not mean to leave them where they are at. Tough love is tough, you cannot let up when it gets ugly. You have to be committed to the truth. For us, it felt like someone was peeling our fingernails off one by one, but we kept telling the truth and dealing with all the feelings that go with it.

My husband is a great man. He loves God and his family. He is faithful as the day is long. He is a hard hard worker. This one area was one that he really did not want to deal with and was quite stubborn about. It hurt me deeply and I could not let it go because I knew it was going to cause us greater problems down the road. We have fought through this hard time and I feel after a year we are coming out the other side more in love with each other and more committed to following Godly principles. He has changed us both in the process. We are both taking responsibility for our part in our past mistakes but more important we have formed a team to conquer this huge mountain. This entire process has been very humbling for my husband and he has handled with true character. It took a baseball bat (figuratively speaking) at times and then it took God’s love and my acceptance to bring him to a place of humility and willingness to change. The thing I love about Keith is that he loves me and has been willing to be put through the fire to be what his family needs him to be. You cannot ask for more.

So this morning when Keith brought up the finances without me hinting or prodding my heart started singing I was sure I could see the angels singing with me!! Hallelujah, Hallelujah, Hallelujahhhhhhhhh!!!

Keith and me

Keith and me

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Sicko

Boy, have we had it bad at our house.  Our sweet Candace, aka Candy, has bronchitis!!! Last month she had pneumonia and strep throat.  We have had three antibiotics in five weeks.  She is a really good patient and does not complain very much. 

It breaks my heart as a mother to see my children suffer in anyway.  Whether they are suffering from illness, friend hurts, school dramas or personal growth issues I just want to be there to help them through the process.  It is really important to me to make my children feel that whatever is going on with them they are my top priority.  I want them to know they are number one in my book. 

When my children are sick I love to get them anything that they think with make them feel better.¬† Candy has wanted sushi for lunch for the past two days.¬† She has not been eating very much so I am thrilled to get anything that might make her eat!¬† I got all her favorites yesterday, mandarin orange segments (six cans), fudge sicles, sushi, crab sticks and chocolate milk.¬† We cuddle on the couch and watch movies and today have watched “Who’s wedding is it anyway?”.

My prayer is that they will feel my love and compassion.

What do you do for your children when they are ill?

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Gloom–I love that word :)

 

One of the hardest things has been for me to accept that¬†I disobeyed God’s word,¬†I sowed seeds of disobedience and have reaped some hard labor, chains, prison (in my mind) and that God is willing to deliver¬†me and set¬†me free.¬† When I cry out to Him, He delivers¬†me from¬†my distress and breaks the chains that bind my heart and mind.¬† My natural self says I ¬†don’t deserve His mercy and His rescue, I made mistakes and should be punished for the next ten years.¬†¬†

He has been waiting for me to call on Him and so He could bring me out of my deepest gloom.  (Gloom is a great word for where I have been)  I am so humbled that He is so loving and forgiving.

It is important to know, my circumstances have not really changed that much, I don’t see any easy resolve on a day to day basis, BUT my prospective has changed, ¬†I see God, His love, His patience, His hand of¬†mercy.¬†¬†¬†¬†I am truly blessed, things really could be worse.¬†

My joy today is not that there is no problem,¬†my joy is that God has been merciful and kind.¬† He has been a loving Father who have forgiven and not given us what we deserve.¬†¬†¬† I see over and over how He delivered people and set their feet on higher ground.¬† I cannot stay depressed when I look at the past miracles He has REPEATEDLY performed for me and mine.¬† I must press on, believe in the unseen, trust in my Faithful Father.¬† I don’t know what He has instore, It may take ten years to resolve my problem BUT I know there will be joy, peace and love with God my Father walking with me.

Psalms 107

for they had rebelled against the words of God

and despised the counsel of the Most High.

So he subjected them to bitter labor;

they stumbled, and there was no one to help.

THEN THEY CRIED TO THE LORD IN THEIR TROUBLE,

AND HE SAVED THEM FROM THEIR DISTRESS.

HE BROUGHT THEM OUT OF DARKNESS AND

THE DEEPEST GLOOM

AND BROKE AWAY THEIR CHAINS.

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Parents

I am so proud of my folks.  They keep moving.  They get tired a little quicker but they keep moving.  They went on the Snake River in a boat.  They went all over the National Park looking at wildlife.  My parents are fun.  I love their sense of humor and their vest for life.  They love nature, beautiful art, and sculptures but the thing they love the most is relationships.  They truly love people.  They gave us all a gift when they taught us to  accept all people.  They do not judge.  They love the  humble and love the person who has messed up.  They love the underdog.  They gave me a gift in learning to love.

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I REFUSE to be discouraged.  I am having the weirdest internal battle and right now I am winning.  Candace is at a difficult time in her life and it is very easy for my mind to go to the fact that IN THE PAST I was not as involved as I am now (that is the short version)  What I feel like the Lord keeps showing me is that if I let myself feel sorry for myself and how I was in the past then one more time the focus is on ME not Candace, how selfish that would be right now.  I have Godly sorrow about the past but have Godly hope for the now and future!  During my great change my focus was me BUT NOW God is making it so easy to get the focus off me and on to others.  Candace needs me right now and I love that I am at an emotional place to be there for her. 

I am weary on a day to day level becuase of¬†the issues Candace is going through but have an underlying excitement that God is using these situations to make us all who He intends us to be.¬† I love her and am so excited that I can love her right where she is at, truly accepting that this is part of God’s plan for her.

Please pray that God will give us practical ways to help Candace with confidence and her academics.  We are asking God to give us a plan.

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Get away

Wow! Keith and I went away for two days. We went to the Blue Ridge mountains and stayed in a cabin. The cabin was beautiful, the view was breath taking. There was NOTHING to do but relax. The tv only had home shopping network and HGTV. We brought books and snacks. We read, slept, eat out a few times and had lots of time to talk and _____. Good time was had by all.

We talked about things we needed to air out but did not dwell there long. Just long enough to get it all out and feel we were head in some areas. Mostly we relaxed together. It was really nice.

Coming home was not hard. We had a great time and when we got home Kayla was home for the weekend! What a great way to start the weekend!

God gave us a little time to enjoy each other, enjoy Him, and to constructively get a game plan for areas we want to work on. Keith was perfect. He knows me and he knows what is important to me. We both committed to keep loving and working.

I feel marriage refreshed.

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