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Kayla and Candace

Kayla and Candace

When we were picking out names for our children we looked at every aspect of their name. Did it rhythm with a bad word, could kids make it into a song and make fun of our child. We thought of the nicknames that could be derived from the name.

With our first child we knew that if we had a girl we wanted to name her Kayla. We had gone to college with a Kayla. She was beautiful, confident and just made you smile. So when we found out we were having a girl we immediately started calling her Kayla. Middle name was a little more difficult, but not really. We wanted to name our daughter after my mother. My mom’s name is Johnnie Belle Sapp Lord. Truly there was only one name we would consider out of those four names and Belle just seemed to go good with Kayla. So on November 16, 1989 we gave birth to Kayla Belle Ingram. She was a beautiful baby and she looked like she fit the name perfectly. The only problem with the middle name was sometimes kids would say, “ding dong, ring a ling” but nothing that really was so bad. She never got a nickname from either of her names and I think that bothered her when she was younger. When her sister came along it seemed nature to speak about her as “Sissy”. It stuck and in our home she is Sissy. We all love it, it feels natural and she now has a nickname at home.

Eight years later we were pregnant with our second daughter and now there were three of us deciding on a name. Adding Kayla to the mix made it much more difficult but we wanted her to take part in the decision. We would come up with a name and Kayla would say, “no way, there is a girl in my class with that name and she is not nice”. She came up with some really great names, Savannah Rose is the one she was pulling for the most. Keith said absolutely not and I agreed. The other problem we had was that half the names we came up with Keith had at some point dated a girl with that name. It got kind of humorous because we had to run it through those two filter first.

We all came to agree when we thought of the name Candace. I was a little nervous because I did not want my daughter called Candy but friends assured me that whatever we called our daughter others would follow, so baby girl 2 became Candace. The middle name was pretty easy. My sister’s middle name is Elizabeth, a name that I love, but more importantly, my sister is one of my best friends and had been with me through so many things, I wanted to honor her. So we all agreed on Candace Elizabeth Ingram.

Candace, ada Candy

Candace, ada Candy

Candace has been Candace for 10 years. In fourth grade Candace came home and said that some of the kids were calling her Candy and she liked it. She always giggles and said that her teacher even slipped and called her Candy one time. I let it go and sometimes Kayla and I would call her that but really did not think anything of it.

Candace has now gone to a new school and she has told the children they can call her Candy, AND THEY DO! She wants to be called Candy. I have a problem with that. We named her Candace and I like that name BUT if you know Candace if anyone could pull off the name Candy it would be her. She is such a funny child, who can make you cry from laughing so hard. She is sweet, sassy and has a great sense of humor. We made her a blog this week and the name of it is I AM CANDY!

When I am upset with her I do the whole name thing, CANDACE ELIZABETH INGRAM! Yelling CANDY would just not be the same.

Here are my questions, Do I let her be Candy? Do I call her Candy? I want her to have a sense of self and want her to have confidence, if Candy does that for her, who am I to stand in the way? TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK PLEASE.


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